March 29, 2026

Before I Forget

 


Before I Forget by Tory Henwood Hoen
Fiction
2025
Finished on 3/22/2026
Rating: 3/5 (Good)

Publisher's Blurb:

A funny, heartfelt, late coming-of-age story that examines the role of memory in holding us back—and in moving us forward

Call it inertia. Call it a quarter-life crisis. Whatever you call it, Cricket Campbell is stuck. Despite working at a zeitgeist-y wellness company, the twenty-six-year-old feels anything but well. Still adrift after a tragedy that upended her world a decade ago, she has entered early adulthood under the weight of a new burden: her father’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis.

When Cricket’s older sister Nina announces it is time to move Arthur from his beloved Adirondack lake house into a memory-care facility, Cricket has a better idea. In returning home to become her father’s caretaker, she hopes to repair their strained relationship and shake herself out of her perma-funk. But even deeply familiar places can hold surprises.

As Cricket settles back into the family house at Catwood Pond―a place she once loved, but hasn’t visited since she was a teenager―she discovers that her father possesses a rare gift: as he loses his grasp of the past, he is increasingly able to predict the future. Before long, Arthur cements his reputation as an unlikely oracle, but for Cricket, believing in her father’s prophecies might also mean facing the most painful parts of her history. As she begins to remember who she once was, she uncovers a vital truth: the path forward often starts by going back.

I spotted a copy of Before I Forget on the new release shelf at my library and decided to give it a try. Other than the Alzheimer's premise, I went into the novel cold. Had I read the blurb, I might have thought twice about borrowing the book.

Before I Forget is no Still Alice. Hoen's novel deals with young love and loss, finding oneself, caregiving of an aging parent, and a new romance. Alzheimer's is a backdrop to Cricket's story, rather than being placed front and center. The specifics of her duties as her father's caregiver are simplistic: fixing a glass of lemonade; walking down to the lake with her father; driving him to restaurants or grocery shopping. The only indication of his dementia is his inability to recognize his daughters, and toward the end, climbing into a stranger's car. 

Before I Forget lacks the depth and nuance of Lisa Genova's brilliant novel about early-onset Alzheimer's. Genova's book informs her readers, evoking compassion and understanding of what it means to be afflicted with the disease, as well as how it affects family and loved ones. Hoen's novel, while dealing with the loss of a high school sweetheart, and a twenty-something-year-old floundering to find herself, is a lighter take on the family demands of Alzheimer's. Arthur's disease provides a backdrop to Cricket's return to the family home in the Adirondacks, which gives her a sense of purpose. 

Hoen's characterization and setting save the book from feeling trite and overtly simplistic. I had no trouble envisioning the cabin set nestled in the trees, overlooking the lake, the loons calling to one another at dusk. However, not one to believe in divination, I felt the subplot of Arthur's new found ability to predict the future, casting him in the role of a local oracle, more than ridiculous.

When I began reading this novel, I was hoping for a more meaningful, literary work, but despite its flaws, I was entertained enough to finish the book.

8 comments:

  1. Hmmm....well, doesn't really seem like a believable depiction of Alzheimer's, but each family's journey with that is different. I loved Still Alice and thought it was pretty accurate. This seems more like a story of growth for the daughter/caretaker and her own life rather than about her father and his condition. However, it would probably work well for some. Thanks for telling about it!

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    1. Kay, you are so right. Alzheimer's isn't the same for every family. I would have liked a bit more about Arthur and a little less about Cricket. Not a bad read, just not one I'll think about down the road.

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  2. Well this is one book I can scratch off the long list of new releases I'm considering this spring. I'm glad it was at least entertaining enough to finish.

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    1. JoAnn, this is why I try to avoid the library when I already have a lot of books on my TBR shelves. Those shiny new releases always call to me!

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  3. Now that my parents are in their 80s, I see my dad and more and more of their friends losing their memories (only one with Alzheimer's). It's amazing how different it is with each person.

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    1. Helen, it's heartbreaking to see our "elders" begin to lose their memories. My mom's is still really quite good, and I'm always amazed she can remember specifics about various trips or meals from decades ago. I'm sorry your dad is struggling with his.

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  4. This one kept me engaged enough (3.5 to 3.75 stars) and overall I enjoyed it. I felt for Cricket -- the guilt over her boyfriend's death and her prior absence with her dad. I liked the setting and the character shows some growth by the end and some coming of age. It reminded me of the home care for the elderly and my parents a bit. I'm glad I read it ... I get all my books from library.

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    1. Susan, it was definitely engaging, just not what I was hoping for. Yes, I felt for Cricket, too. I was happy for how things turned around for her in the end. And the setting reminded me a little bit of my family's cabin in Big Bear. I would probably use the library more often if I didn't get my books from my mom once she's finished with them. She reads A LOT!

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