May 27, 2010

Remembering Peachoo

Rachel Elizabeth Scher
February 17, 1981 - May 28, 2005


Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann’d:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.
~ Christina Georgina Rossetti (1830 – 1894)

For more pictures of our beautiful daughter, go here.


  1. I am just getting to know you through the blogging world so I am not sure who Rachel is in relation to you, but I am so sorry for your loss.

  2. Anonymous3:36 PM

    I'll always remember, dear one. She'll never be forgotten by me. Ever. My love and many, many hugs to you both!

  3. What an amazing smile she had and how you must miss her still. I have a daughter almost her age and I can only imagine your loss.

  4. Anonymous5:57 PM

    We love you all and miss Rachel very much. I so wish she could have seen all of Shaylyn's milestones and that we could compare notes about the girls.

    She'll be forever in our hearts.

    Jen, Chris, Maddie & Emily

  5. What a beautiful tribute. Thank you.

  6. She lives on always in the hearts of those who loved her, forever young and beautiful. Hugs to you all.

  7. OMG how beautiful. Is this your daughter who passed away? My heart goes out to all of you.

  8. Elisabeth5:19 PM

    My heart goes out to you. I looked through all the pictures. Such a tragedy. It makes all my problems seem so small. You must be a very strong and courageous person, I admire you for that.
    I love your blog - your choice of reads is akin to mine. Keep up the good work!!

  9. Les, I am so sorry. What a beautiful tribute to Rachel. I went back and read all the letters and looked at all the pictures. What a tragedy. Truly awful.

  10. I think it is so touching how you do posts like this every year. She must be really missed!

  11. I don't think I've ever seen any of these photos (except for the last one). Lovely, lovely. After 4 years of your thoughts and photos, I almost feel like I knew her.

  12. Thank you all for your loving comments. I hesitated to share yet another "anniversary" post this year, (and I think I'm going to make it my last public "remembrance" here) but the five year mark seemed significant. It was a rough day, but as in past years, we got through it and are moving foreword once again. We are spending the holiday weekend with family and they are providing much needed distraction to what has become one of the worst holidays for us.

    To the new visitors here, thank you for taking the time to leave a comment.

    Ti and Diane, Rachel was my stepdaughter. I added a link to my other blog which includes more pics and a basic explanation of her death. My husband also has a blog which is listed in the sidebar of my "Stop all the Clocks" blog.

  13. Pam - Thanks for taking the time to read through all of my letters to Rach. It was very cathartic to write them and I hope someday they'll be a comfort to Rachel's daughter. Yes, it really is an awful and senseless tragedy.

  14. I'm thinking of you and Rod and Shaylyn as I do always... especially at this time of the year.

    Linda in VA

  15. Thank you for sharing this with us! 5 years is a big mark isn't it. I know when I lost my dad when it was the 5th anniversary it felt very big. Like it was so long ago but yet still so raw.

    Sending you a big hug!

  16. I'm glad you have some happy memories to get you through the grief I'm sure you're still experiencing.

  17. Anonymous3:17 PM

    I'm so sorry about your daughter. She looks absolutely beautiful.

  18. Thanks again to all of you who have left comments. It was a rough couple of days (yes, 5 years is a big mark), but we flew out to San Diego on the 28th and had a wonderful Memorial Day weekend (and then some) with my brother and his family. It was good to have the distraction of traveling on the anniversary date and to be surrounded by our loved-ones for a few days.

    Thank you for your kind words. They meant a lot to both me and Rod.

  19. What a beautiful tribute. I remember seeing other ones you have done. She was so young to be taken from you. You are such a positive role model for how you share your grief but continue to live your life.

  20. Les,
    My heart goes out to you and your husband. I can't imagine the pain of losing a child. Thank you for sharing a bit of her with us.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  21. Teddy Rose - You are such a positive role model for how you share your grief but continue to live your life.

    Thank you for your lovely, kind words.

    Staci - Your kinds words are deeply appreciated. Thank you.

  22. I'm sorry I didn't comment sooner, but please know that I don't feel any less compassion now than I would have in May. (Does that even make sense?) Anyway, my thoughts and prayers (and hugs, too) are with you and your husband. I wish I could say what would bring you the most comfort. I do know that she holds a special place in your heart and you all were blessed to have one another for the time you were given. Memories are a treasure.

  23. Joy - No need to apologize! You've been so busy with work and I am touched that you've come back to comment on so many of my posts. Your kind words have touched me deeply and I appreciate your thoughts, prayers and hugs. Rod & I have found so much comfort in all the love we've received from our family and friends. And, yes, Rachel will forever hold a special place in our hearts. I can finally look at the photos and smile... Memories are truly a treasure. As is friendship. Thank you for yours.

  24. Thank you for your kind comment on my Tea & Cookies grief post. I've followed you here and read about your lovely Rachel and I am so, so sorry to hear about her loss and the heartbreaking circumstances. I hope you are finding your way forward, and know that another person is now thinking of your lovely girl and missing her with you.

    All best, courage and strength to you and your family.

  25. Tea - And thank you for your kind words here! This is always a rough time of year for my family, but we aren't quite as fragile as we were during those early years of our grief. This year we plan to spend the holiday weekend with our good friends in the mountains of Colorado. It will be nice to get away and do some hiking, but Peachoo will be in our thoughts, as she always is.

    Thanks again for visiting.


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