Nature & Books belong to the eyes that see them.
- Emerson
September 3, 2026
A Month in Summary - August 2026
August 26, 2026
More Than Enough
November 24, 2025
The Next Day
You don't get to be my age without navigating all kinds of transitions. Some you anticipated and some you never expected. Some you embraced and some you resisted. Some you hoped for and some you fought as hard as you could.
Still though, I believe that there are many aspects of the human experience that are universal. All of us want to feel a sense of ownership over our lives and our stories. All of us want to make meaning of the events we live through--the bitter and the sweet. All of us long for connection and the chance to be fully known.Often when I've found myself in unfamiliar waters, I have reached across time and space to find something to buoy me in words written by someone else, sometimes someone who lived and died before I was born, someone with whom I have nothing obvious in common. In those moments, I'm glad that these people took the time to write about the things that mattered to them.
As a society, we often ascribe a certain virtue to people's lifelong dreams, as if those are, for some reason, more authentic or worthwhile than the dreams and aspirations we develop later in life. The truth, though, as Reverend McCaulley explains, is that there's important value in being willing to change your plans as your understanding of the world expands and grows more complex. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself and the people around you is to have the wisdom to know which dreams to let go of in order to make room for something new. Some dreams undoubtedly propel us forward, but others hold us back. The trick is learning to distinguish between the two--and, when you decide an old dream no longer serves you, finding the courage to slip its bonds.
... wherever we are in life, we should find a way to look back at the versions of ourselves who came before us not with shame or regret but with tenderness and compassion. The people we used to be deserve for us to remember that they knew so much less, had experienced so much less, and were doing the best they could with what they had.
May 18, 2025
There Was an Old Woman
August 1, 2024
A Month in Summary - July 2024
July 19, 2024
After Annie
Grief was like spring, maybe. You thought you were getting out from under it and then it came roaring back. And getting out from under it felt like forgetting, and forgetting felt like treason. Sometimes when he reached in the closet for a shirt, a sleeve or two from her side would touch his arm, like it was reaching for him, and there would be a faint smell, lemon and hand cream and something else, maybe her shampoo.
My heart ached for Ali (Annie's thirteen-year-old daughter), but it was eleven-year-old Ant, whose anger turned to despair when he cried, "I want my mom." I have held a grieving child who said those exact words to me, and all I could do was hold her tighter. I didn't believe it at the time, but I can now agree with Ant's father as he held his son, telling him that it does get better.
Every Last One continues to be my favorite work of Quindlen's, but After Annie comes very close to nudging that novel down a notch. I was captivated from the opening lines, finishing far more quickly than I wanted.
Highly recommend.
June 30, 2024
Sandwich
"It's only Monday!" I say. I say this every year. This is the part of our vacation where I feel like the week will never end. Like it's just going to stretch out luxuriously this way for the rest of time. It won't last, though. Later I'll cry, "How is it already Friday?" and everyone will nod and sigh because I ask this every year.
I'm looking in the mirror at my hair. My hair! What on earth? It used to hang down in heavy, glossy waves, and now it sticks out of my head like a marshful of brittle autumn grasses. It is simultaneously coarse and weightless in a way that seems like an actual paradox, as if my scalp is extruding a combination of twine, nothing, and fine-grit sandpaper.
And this may be the only reason we were put on this earth. To say to each other, I know how you feel. To say, Same. To say, I understand how hard it is to be a parent, a kid.
November 15, 2022
These Precious Days
I remember again how valuable he is, how lucky we are. Karl isn't having a heart attack. Byron didn't know what might have caused the pain. Indigestion? Stress? It didn't matter. Karl is beside me. The meeting I'm missing doesn't matter, and Sparky is fine with his dog friends at the bookstore. For as many times as the horrible thing happens, a thousand times in every day the horrible thing passes us by. A meteor could be skating past Earth's atmosphere this very minute. We'll never know how close we came to annihilation, but today I saw it--everything I had and stood to lose and did not lose. Thanks to this fleeting clarity, the glow from the fluorescent tubes on the ceiling of this small cardiac recovery room lights up the entire world.
As every reader knows, the social contract between you and a book you love is not complete until you hand that book to someone else and say, Here, you're going to love this. I always thought that sharing the books I loved with my students, requiring them to read those books, was the biggest perk of being a teacher. But at the bookstore, people who actually want my recommendations walk through the door all day long. The students were captives, the customers are volunteers.
"Never judge a book by its cover" is a good way of saying that people shouldn't be evaluated on the basis of looks alone, but the adage doesn't apply to actual books. Where books are concerned, covers are what we have to go on. We might be familiar with the author's name or like the title, but absent that information, it's the jacket design--the size and shape of the font, the color, the image or absence of image--that makes us stop at the new releases table of our local independent bookstore and pick up one novel instead of another. Book covers should entice readers the way roses entice bees--like their survival depends on it.
April 5, 2022
Monogamy
January 9, 2022
Books Read in 2021
The Overdue Life of Amy Byler by Kelly Harms (2/5)
Kindred by Octavia E. Butler (3/5)
The Fireman by Joe Hill (3/5)
All the Devils Are Here by Louise Penny (5/5)
The Yellow Bird Sings by Jennifer Rosner (3/5)
Pigs in Heaven by Barbara Kingsolver (4/5)
The Daughters of Erietown by Connie Schultz (4/5)
A Share in Death by Deborah Crombie (4/5)
The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff (1/5)
The World We Found by Thrity Umrigar (3/5)
Stars of Alabama by Sean Dietrich (3/5)
Young Jane Young by Gabrielle Zevin (4.5/5)
All Shall Be Well by Deborah Crombie (3/5)
If I Stay by Gayle Forman (4/5)
The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead (2/5)
Nineteen Minutes by Jodi Picoult (4.5/5)
Beartown by Fredrik Backman (5/5)
A Quiet Life in the Country by T. E. Kinsey (4/5)
Leave the Grave Green by Deborah Crombie (3/5)
Circe by Madeline Miller (5/5)
The Vanishing Half by Brit Bennett (3/5)
Three Hours in Paris by Cara Black (1/5)
Gift From the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh (2/5)
Commonwealth by Ann Patchett (4/5)
A Thousand Mornings by Mary Oliver (4/5)
Felicity by Mary Oliver (4/5)
Afterlife by Julia Alvarez (3/5)
Blue Horses by Mary Oliver (4/5)
Mourn Not Your Dead by Deborah Crombie (4/5)
Testimony by Anita Shreve (4.5/5)
Dog Songs by Mary Oliver (2/5)
Dreaming of the Bones by Deborah Crombie (2/5)
The Oregon Trail by Rinker Buck (2/5)
28 Summers by Elin Hilderbrand (4.5/5)
Kissed a Sad Goodbye by Deborah Crombie (4/5)
Migrations by Charlotte McConaghy (3.5/5)
Still Me by Jojo Moyes (4.5/5)
Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano (4/5)
The Sewing Room by Rev. Barbara Cawthorne Crafton (3/5)
On Island Time by Hilary Stewart (4/5)
Writers & Lovers by Lily King (4.5/5)
Anxious People by Fredrik Backman (2/5)
House Rules by Jodi Picoult (4.5/5)
The Most Fun We Ever Had by Claire Lombardo (4.5/5)
A Finer End by Deborah Crombie (2/5)
In the Market for Murder by T.E. Kinsey (3/5)
The One I Left Behind by Jennifer McMahon (4/5)
The Survivors by Jane Harper (2/5)
The Madness of Crowds by Louise Penny (4/5)
Falling by T.J. Newman (4/5)
The Twelve Lives of Samuel Hawley by Hannah Tinti (5/5)
And Justice There Is None by Deborah Crombie (4/5)
Living Out Loud by Anna Quindlen (2/5)
The Splendid and the Vile by Erik Larson (5/5)
A Homemade Life by Molly Wizenberg (5/5)
The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue by V.E. Schwab (3.5/5)
The Longest Road by Philip Caputo (2/5)
Notes on Grief by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (3/5)
Broken Horses by Brandi Carlile (3/5)
I Miss You When I Blink by Mary Laura Philpott (3/5)
Delancey by Molly Wizenberg (4/5)
Yeah, No. Not Happening. by Karen Karbo (1/5)
The Midnight Library by Matt Haig (4/5)






























